The difference between pregnancy 1 and pregnancy 2

I have watched with great amusement over the years the difference in my female friends’ and families behaviour during pregnancy number one and subsequent pregnancies. I did a quick survey to ask them the main differences for this blog. Here’s what they said... 

 

Pregnancy 1

Pregnancy 2

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You can’t pass a bookshop without popping in for baby books, you devour blogs and trawl parenting sites, striking up conversation with complete strangers.

You haven’t read any kind of book for two years.

Tracking baby’s progress

You have signed up to a pregnancy app and get daily emails as to his or her progress. You discuss these with your partner daily and know the baby’s size in relation to fruit. 

When people ask you how many weeks you are gone you stare blankly back at them.

Nursery decor

You create a mood board and collect ideas on Pinterest for months. You and your partner spend many weekends getting the nursery just right.

You haven’t quite figured out where the baby will sleep once it’s too big for a crib in your own bedroom.

Birth preparations

You spend months selecting your "birth playlist" and shop around for the best audio meditations for birth. You seriously consider not taking pain relief during birth because it’s more natural.

No pain relief?

Bwah bwah!!!

Diet

Nothing that’s forbidden passes your lips. Runny eggs, soft cheeses and even 99s in the summer-time, are off the list. You make a note how often you eat tuna sandwiches and check it regularly to make sure you are not exceeding the twice a week limit.

You develop a craving for tuna sandwiches and are fairly confident that a lot of soft cheese in now pasteurised. You’re going to go with your hunch anyway. 

The stuff

You think that a nappy pail will be just the job and wonder where you will fit it in to the nursery, what with the changing table, the vintage rocking chair and the vibrating bouncy chair.

You can’t remember who you loaned your "baby stuff" to and have no intention of getting it back to clutter up the place.

Maternity style

You create a capsule maternity wardrobe that is adaptable for day and night to get you through the latter half of your pregnancy. You accessorise carefully.  

You can’t remember who you loaned your maternity clothes to. You message your friends to see if they have any and accept all donations no matter what size. You think that track suit bottoms are multi-functional and do for most occasions.

The photos

You frame all the ultra-sound scans and copy them for your family.

You forget to ask the mid-wife scanning you for a copy to take home.

Social life

You carry on accepting invites to nights out with your friends and try to stay out as late as they do.

You get into your PJs after tea each night and send out a message to all your friends saying that you are only accepting invites that involve movie matinees or cake. 

What the baby will be like

You have day dreams about presidential nominations for your little super star.

You just hope he or she will be healthy, a good sleeper and not hurt you too much on the way out.

Folic acid

You buy it with the pregnancy test kit

You were fine first time round and anyway, you eat cereal so the baby will be fine, right? 

In most cases, becoming a more relaxed mum is a positive change, except for taking folic acid. Studies show that women are less likely to take folic acid the second time round, for a whole host of reasons. If you’ve had a healthy baby, you tend to feel less vulnerable. On a more practical level, you are far, far busier.

In truth though, the risks of having a baby with a neural tube defect are the same for your first and subsequent births. The best way to protect your baby is to take folic acid all the time, even if you aren’t planning another baby just yet.

Fortified foods like breakfast cereal don’t provide you with the extra folic acid to support pregnancy. Half of pregnancies are unplanned and the baby’s spine and brain develop during the first few weeks of life, before you probably even know you are pregnant.

So go on, just in case there are any little surprises, take your folic acid again, just like you did the first time.

 

Posted: 30/07/2015 15:29:18 by Aileen McGloin
Filed under: Children, Folic acid, Pregnancy


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Aileen McGloin
Hi, my name is Aileen McGloin and I am the Director of Marketing and Communications, at safefood. I trained as a public health nutritionist originally and am passionate about changing food-related behaviour. I have a particular interest in using digital technology to promote health. At home, I love books, am in a book club and married to a crime writer. I’m a fiend for all things fashion and like walking, swimming and TV that is so bad it’s good. I live in Co. Wicklow with my husband and 10 year old daughter.